Life in Pictures!

I hardly share pictures on the blog..mainly because I am super lazy to click pictures, then transfer them and then try and get them in place..yaada yaada…since 2014 started here are a few pictures I clicked.

1. The clouds when R and I were standing at her bus stop sometime in January. We spent 10 minutes guessing what all the shapes were like…What are your thoughts?

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2. This is how I have combed the brat’s hair since last year. 10 minutes of shouting fighting screaming ,squiggling, moving head etc etc. Now I cut it really short :),

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3. The roses in the balcony in February. At one point there were 12 of them blooming together :)

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4. The flowering blooming in Thane when my cousin and I ran the Thane marathon together. It was so captivating that I stopped to click a pic! 20140216_073711

 

5. Kalakhatta ice cubes :) R loves gola but hygiene is always an issue. I dont have an ice crushing machine or any kind of kulfi moulds. So used the ice tray to make the kalakhatta flavor ice cubes. The brat loves them20140412_123853

 

6. Vishu Kanni at home! 20140414_210312

 

7. Amma celebrated her birthday a couple of days ago. RD got her this cake and we cut it in the evening :) Its super yummm..and for those interested..its chocolate truffle :)20140415_144030

 

8. And finally I succumbed. I let R put nail polish on her feet. She pleaded, cajoled, cried, and really really pleaded badly..I was like anyways she turns 6 this year. As long as its done during vacations its fine I guess.

20140415_211924 Gee! NINE pics uploaded on a single day..thats a record on this blog :)

Happy Easter Everyone :)

 

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Exams Over, Questions Galore

Most kids in Bombay have finished with their exams. The brat finished hers as well. As per her, all her papers went extremely well *laughs out loud on that* and she answered all her oral examinations also properly. Her results are out on April 26th. So will let you know if she passed or not *evil grin*

This examinations are a funny thing. I dont think children upto class 5 should even have exams. I have realised for all the big talks I used to give about not pressurising my child for studying and letting her be, etc etc and yaada yaada,I turned out quite different. Which is suprising me, honestly!

I actually sat with the brat a few days before her exams started and made her go through all the writing work and the spoken part. Does that mean I am turning into a Tiger mom? I dont know. I am finding it extremely difficult to draw that fine line between being a tiger mom and a bindaas mom. I find myself oscillating between the two.

For example, I do follow up with R on her homework. Each day. Everyday. After coming back from office, I check her calender and I check if she has done her homework or if she needs help in anything. But at the same time, I dont bother revising anything with her if the homework is done. Is that becasue she is still in SR.KG? I dont know!

During her exams, I would revise everything with her, make her write all her stuff once and then let her go down to play. And thats it. We were done. I am not sure if thats the right approach?

RD is hardly bothered about her studies. Sometimes he doesnt even know which exam she has. He says he is not going to fret about such things in life. I used to say the same. But if one of us dont, wouldnt that be wrong? I remember my mom sitting with bro and me for our studies, until one day in class 3 I had a major argument with her regarding something our teacher taught us. After that I told her, I will study on my own, I will never ever come to you. And I didnt *gee what a headstrong brat I was!*
I guess the key is to keep a track but not pressurize.(I mean if we dont keep a track, wouldnt it amount to neglecting the child??? I dont know)But my question is how to do that? I seem to be either making her sit down forcibly and make her do her studies, or I seem to be just leaving everything thinking ‘ayega toh theek hai’ types. Which is the right approach? and if neither is right, which is the one that falls in between?

Many schools now a days follow a system where children dont have to do any writing till they turn 6 or 7. Unfortunately, R doesnt go to such a school because we couldnt afford the ones in our area which follow that system. She just goes to a normal school which started writing in Jr. Kg and now they even have stuff like fill in the blanks with has/have. And R gets it right everytime. How? dont ask me, I dont know the rules myself. But my problem is, are we doing the right thing? Should we send her to such a school? I feel there is too much pressure on her, though honestly, she seems to be learning at a normal pace and doesnt seem to have any pressure. She is grasping whats taught, and whatever she doesnt understand, she just tells me ‘Amma nahi aata toh main kya karu?’ Then I think, maybe I am reading too much into the situation. May be this approach is fine as well. After all we also learnt this way.

But the downside of this system is. R cant read by herself. Which kind of makes me feel bad. At nearly 6 years, kids read by themselves right? R struggles to read even 3 letter and 4 letter words. And the worst part is, she is refusing to even make an effort. How much ever I try, she doesnt want to read on her own. I stopped reading her books in the middle in a hope that she will start reading on her own, but thats not happening. I am very worried about it. My mom says am overreacting and she will start reading when she is ready. Pushing her will just make her rebel and she will not start like that. I dont know. I am so confused. And yes, I do confess that I have started comparing her to other children who I know were reading effortlessly at her age. But thats wrong. I know is it. Every child is different. But..but..

Well..so thats the disadvantage of putting her in a normal school. All in all, these exams left me with a lot of questions

1. Whats the fine line of balance between a tiger mom and a bindaas mom?
2. How do you keep track and yet not pressurize your child into studying?
3. How do you get your child to start reading on her/his own?
4. Are studies really that important?
5. Why do we lay so much emphasis on studies? Why am I not worried that she is still scared of water and she is hesitant to swim? That should affect me as well right?
All confusion and no answers? Any help?

 

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Randomness Returns

1. The brat’s exams get over today. After four days of Hindi, English, Maths, EVS, yaada yaada, today evening, I am going to let her just be. Yes,I did sit after her to make her ‘study’.

2. She has discovered a new friend in the building. A first in 5.5 years. The girl is one year old to her, in the same school as hers and an year older class wise also. But both the girls seem to hit off very well. Infact, both of them look alike also. As if they are twins or something. A couple of folks in the building have confused them for each other. They play together in the evenings from 7 to 8 after the brat returns from daycare. They fight equally and love each other equally.

3. The days in Bombay are getting so hot, that I think eventually by May the roads are going to start melting. I heard Bangalore is no better eh?

4. My Amma is here for a while so life is a bit easier. She cooks in the mornings and takes care of everything else. I am getting totally spoilt.

5. Amma is on a cleaning spree, getting the cobwebs out and the windows polished. I am contributing nothing to the entire clean up process.

6. Its summer now and am remembering the mangoes of Baroda. The chundo and the panna and the aam ras and the junagadi kesar..sigh! I miss my childhood

7. I had this sudden urge to eat jhal muri. I called up RD asking him if he could get it from somewhere. He was like ‘there is no place nearby I can get you jhalmuri, lets make at home’ We made a pseudo jhalmuri that day evening and we enjoyed it. The next day, he got me sukha bhel from work, and at the risk of sounding conceited, I liked my jhalmuri better.

8. On the food note, we are have been living without eating onions and garlic for about 2 weeks now. The brat and RD plan to go to Sabarimalai in May and RD is on with the vratham. R is barely affected, since her daycare gives jain food and she is not a fan of onions anyways! I am missing the taste of garlic but am too lazy to cook for myself separately :)

9. Everyone seems to be doing 100 days of happiness and A to Z challenge in the blogworld. I can barely think of any happiness to write about honestly. The daily routine gets cumbersome. That doesn’t mean I am unhappy. It just means I am plain lazy to write about the happy things in life

10. I read this post on ‘real’ things by Bride. So so agree to a lot of things she says. And organic food in Mumbai is verrrryyyy expensive eh?

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Darn my Luck!

Its Chaitra month Navratri going on and today is asthami. As in the normal Navratri some people celebrate this asthami too..by doing pooja for small girls.

Now the brat is a popular choice in my building (not too many small girls eh?) which has 2-3 north Indians who call her every year to do prasad. I always always always send R because I LOVE the prasad they send across. The black channa, puri and sheera. And the brat always gets back excess food for me :) (What I am a practical mother, some advantages of having a girl eh?)

Anyways so today morning, at about 8.30 I get a call.

Hi, I am XX calling from X floor

RM: Hello hello

Voice: We are having Navratri pooja at the house, can you please send your daughter for the pooja

RM: Oh, but she has gone to school

Voice: oh..when will she return

RM: We will be back in the evening

voice: oh okay

RM :you have made puri,chole, sheera prasad kya?

Voice: Yaa, was hoping to have her here..but chalega..

RM: Errr…we….

But the phone got cut. And she didnt even ask us to come in the evening to collect the prasad.

Darn darn darn! That prasad is to die for. Absolutely yummmmm and I lost a golden chance to eat it. Just darn my luck!!!!

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And Since I Can’t Really Shut Up…..

…here are few posts I wrote for IMC

A couple of Book Reviews

1. Harry and the BucketFul of Dinosaurs

2. Junior Kumbhakarna – Much Recommended. R and I still haven’t stopped laughing :)

And here is why I plan to put R into a summer camp mid of April, provided its affordable :)

 

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*Goes back to Hibernation*

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Full Stop!

That’s what I have been telling the brat. Use the full stop after a sentence. She thinks its a waste of space :)

And now I think my brains have come to a full stop. I cant think of a single thing to write. Darn! This is what they call ‘Writer’s Block’ in a more sophisticated language. I just call it my-brain-is-too-lazy-to-churn-posts.

Regular programming will resume once the laziness is overcome. Till then, please do bear the silence..heheheheeh :)

PS – Not even reading other blogs, which means the laziness levels have reached that of a polar bear in deep winter. Will come out of hibernation soon. :)

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Goofy Folks, Goofy Talks and Goofy Answers

Disclaimer : The post has nothing to do with Goofy the cute character from Mickey Mouse Club

Friday evening. I am late from work. Sitting back an additional hour means going home almost 1.5 hours late. I am super irritated standing in a crowded BEST bus trying to reach the station. The traffic is moving verrrrrrry slowing..no wait, its crawling and now its a complete standstill. For about 10 minutes. I am fuming, bugged, irritated and what not.

I whatapp RD

I am stuck in traffic ugh!

After three seconds I get a message from him

Oh and I am stuck in office!

RM: !!!!

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I get into the BEST bus. I am really tired and wondering what to cook for dinner. Easy easy easy says the mind. Tasty tasty tasty says the tongue. Anything anything anything growls the stomach. Deciding deciding deciding I think.

The conductor comes to me. I give out the money and say ‘Khichuri Bhaat and Tomato Chutney’

And he stares at me and then says Madam stop bolo stop!

Ah! well, the food is priority no?

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R had a singing competition in school. Only devotional and folk songs allowed. After much thought, I made her learn the Bengali song ‘Dhitang Dhitang Bole’ Both RD and Amma were skeptical whether she would get the words. But she did. Plus Cousin K recorded the song in her awesome voice and sent it across on whatsapp. So for 15 days everyday, I would make her hear Cousin K’s recordings.

Finally the day of the competition arrived. She sang pretty well at home and RD and Amma both said they were surprised she could learn the words yaada yaada.

Anyways so I ask her, kaisa tha singing?

R: Acha tha

RM: Did you remember the words?

R: I remembered, but the song was so long that teacher asked me to stop half way and go back to my seat!

RM: !!!!

Darn, all efforts down the drain eh?
For the records – ITs about 2 minutes thats it!
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So I am furiously typing something on the computer. Then my phone buzzes. I turn around to pick it up and crash. the lid of my tiffin box has fallen into that minuscle gap between the wall and my desk. And there is NO way I can retrive it :( I try using a scale/ ruler and it goes even further inside.

I ask the admin staff for help. The guy comes.

I explain the situation to him.He looks at me in absolute surprise. Madam, idhar giraya.

RM: haan

Him: Idhar idhar..he says pointing towards the gap…

RM: yes bhai idhar

Him: Madam, itne saal iss company mein kaam kiya hai..but kissi ne bhi iss chote gap mein kuch bhi nahi giraya..aap peheli hain

and starts laughing..

I am just shutting up!

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