R and I were at this place which is like a school for kids but also houses a lot of other facilities. The place had a lot of stuff put up on a cabinet including how to teach your kids about English, Mathematics books, etc etc…one of the notices tucked in a corner read ‘How to Talk To Your Child About Sex?’
R being R, the curious cat started reading all the notices to while away time. As she came the notice down, she read loudly ‘How To Talk To Your Child About Sex?’
She looked at me and said ‘Amma, there is a spelling mistake na. Its SIX not SEX right?’
Before I could answer, she said ‘Amma, what is there to talk about SIX, It says SEX, so it will be SEX!’
R: Amma, what is SEX?
Well, honestly I had not anticipated this question at the age of seven. I thought I had some years before I started out talking about sex to her.
Me: It may mean a couple of things
She waited expectantly.
Then I decided to just tell her the truth. Its so much easier that way.
Me: sex can mean your gender. Like your sex is a girl, my sex is a girl, R2’s sex is girl and Appa’s sex is boy.
But the brat being brat, asked then what is there to talk about?
Me: Well, sex also means something you do with someone you really like a lot.
R: Like what?
Me:Its something you will realise when you are slightly older. Its just a sort of thing you do when you like someone and are happy with that person.
R: Like kissing?
I was like ‘How on earth did she know about kissing?’ because RD and I are not really the touchy feely couple in front of her..
R: Yaa, like how Anna and that boy (She meant Kristoff) did in Frozen.
Ah well…I realised movies do show a lot of kissing..
Yes, I said, like kissing!
R: So sex is kissing?
Me: not exactly, but its like that..
She: hmmm..okay…Look R2 is calling me..
and she skipped away!
Did I handle it okay? I didnt realise explaining sex to a kid could be so tough…Is there a better way to do it?