…… has become my favorite phrase now a days.
I must confess I often find having a second child overwhelming. Whether its feeding her or putting her to sleep. I seem to have forgotten a lot of things which I did for R. For the folks who think its easier the second time over, let me assure you its NOT. Handling the first child along with an infant just makes it so much more tougher.
Sore breasts, backpain due to constant sitting, cranky baby and crazy sleep patterns are all handled only because my Amma is here, at every step, like a rock. Handling my mood swings, making R feel absolutely special, putting R2 to sleep AND taking care of the house.
I keep telling myself often now a days- this too shall pass.
Two days ago, RD had gone on a office trip, when R and R2 lay on either side of the bed while I lay between them. R had thrown a casual leg on my leg, with her hand on my tummy (which is like a mountain shaped pillow she loves cuddling) while R2 slept on her back like infants do in their special way, with the fingers of her right hand curled around the forefinger of my left hand. That moment, I realised, that its totally worth it. Having another child. It gave me a sense of peace for the first time since R2 was born. For all the constant cribbing I am doing, that moment was a sense of calm. A sense of contentment and a sense of all the good things to come.
I may continue to crib, but that’s when I realised I am so glad I had R2!
And thats when i realised that yep this phase too shall pass and life will bring in its special moments for me to enjoy 🙂
PS – waiting for R2 to turn one fast!
PS 1 – more than me its her akka who wants her to grow so that she can share her pooochkas with her little sister (I will eat half and she will eat half and all the pani which falls into the plate, we will share half n half…main thoda zyada loongi, ok Amma?, main big hoon na 🙂 )