I know I know…nice song..but totally irrelevant to the post…just heard it yesterday though 🙂 And everytime I hear this song, I remember Comfy. I had heard this song for the first time on her blog… okay I digress.
The point of this post is the first and the last word of the title ‘tum’, Thats been moving round and round in my brains for ages now! (I have earlier written a stupid rant on aap and tum here)
This tum thing…I am going in circles thinking about this whole tum thing.
Some days ago when RD went to Malai and came back, we were talking about something. The rare times in our married life where we both actually ‘talked’. Anyways, so he told me about this uncle in the temple who was pretty upset with the fact that I called RD ‘tu’. RD told him very politely that it was between me and him and he didnt understand how me calling RD ‘tu’ really affected that uncle. Ah well, here is when you all clap and tell me that I have married a sweet guy yaada yaada…
But then, I realised it been bugging me. This whole tu and tum thing. Tu is a very Bombay thing, I think. I have been to a few states across India, but I havent heard the word ‘tu’ being spoken anywhere else with such abundance. Spending 8 years in Bombay means that I have just gotten used to hearing the language here, and I have shifted slowly from tum to tu. I call everyone my age and younger to me as tu.
But the uncle’s incident bothered me so much, that I asked around in a Whatsapp group what they thought about it. No big deal was the common consensus but most folks avoid using tu. Most of them use tum.
A couple of times RD has told me about my habit of saying ‘tu’ to even children may not be a good thing when the parents themselves call their children as ‘tum’ or ‘aap’. I tried to make a conscious effort to go towards ‘tum’ but somehow I have failed time and again.
Until, I heard the brat speak to one of her friends and ask her ‘tu mere ghar pe aayegi kya?‘ and then I cringed. Now I realised, why RD keeps telling me to go to ‘tum’ and not ‘tu’. It felt weird to hear a child who always calls everyone ‘aap’ to go to ‘tu’
I think I am going to make a serious effort to call everyone ‘aap’ to lets says at least ‘tum’. I have to, incase I want my child to have proper language. and this includes starting with RD. Unfortunately, RD doesnt seem to respond well when I called him ‘tum’. He looked back and asked me ‘if I was okay and all that’ *eye roll*
But today onwards, I have a vision. A vision to transform my ‘tus’ to’ tums’. Its going to be a work in progress taken very seriously. If I succeed, I am going to award myself
1. A big thin crust cheese laden pizza
2. A big packet of chips with lemon masala on it
3. A big thali of chaat of different types (but no kachori)
4. A large burger and peri peri french fries
5. A big bucketful of kesar aam ras
Yep, so from tuing I am going to tuming…toh kya bolte tum???