I must confess I am not a good traveler. Infact, I dont like travelling much. I find it a hassle because
1. Ticket availability and the money and the effort that goes in securing the tickets
2. The packing. What to pack, what not to pack, what to take, what not to take and this becomes even more cumbersome with a child around. Should I take her rubber sheet, will she pee in the train, how do I make her go to potty, yaada yaada
and most importantly
AFTER I come back, I HATE HATE unpacking. I hate putting the tons of clothes to wash and even worse, I hate drying them, and folding them and keeping them back in. and then of course, the fact that the vacation has actually ended. That makes me super sad.
In short, in about 8 years of marriage, I must confess RD and I have taken only ONE vacation (our honeymoon!) otherwise, its either going to the in laws house or to the parents house.
RD on the other hand, LOVES to travel. He loves it so much. And yet he is married to someone who is definitely a reluctant traveller!
He has made many offers to take me here and there, and everytime I have refused. And come up with excuses, no money, no leaves at work, R unwell, R too young..yaada yaada…
Some months ago, I got to meet Hitchy and his wife. Now Hitchy is a wonderful person and more importantly, the four of us talked through the night. One of the topics we discussed was about travel. Hitchy has taken a lot of vacations and he was telling RD and me about the benefits of going on vacations. No matter what arguments I came up with, he had a very ready and convincing answer for it.
And finally, RD was like ‘Forget it Hitchy,this girl is never going to travel!’
And then it struck me. Really? I always wanted to travel when I was a kid. I wanted to become a journalist and cover countries reporting interesting facts so that children would be enticed to learn more geography. What happened to that dream of mine? Did it die like a lot of other dreams which I have given up running behind this whole money thing?
I may not be able to travel this year due to various reasons, but definitely I had decided from next year onwards, we are going to go on vacations as a family, to a place apart from the inlaws and parents house. When I think back, I do have the fondest memories of meeting my cousins in Calcutta, but equally lovely are the memories of travelling with family friends, on long trips to the south and Saurashtra. My parents couldnt afford a vacation every year, but they sure gave us wonderful trips whenever we could go.
Hopefully next year, will see me explore new places and provide experiences to R which she will learn to cherish. I plan to start small, may be a 3-4 day trip and then perhaps take it forward.
Wish me luck eh?
PS – RD will be given the responsibility of unpacking, and washing the clothes. And when one vacation ends, I can always start planning for the next eh?