Seriously, someone needs to teach R some other word than why? Anything you ask her to do, her first question is why? and then the usual other whys? like why am I dark? or why is the moon with patches or why is Appa going for meetings in the night every Friday? or why the world is round…you know…while all who are not parents of 5 year old may find it extremely ‘cute’ and advice me that ‘this child with her whys’ will do well in life, etc etc..honestly, after a while, her whys get on to my nerves!
But in my defence, I swear (ask her!) I do answer as many whys as I can, because secretly I do hope my answers make her more inquisitive. What? I am a mother eh?
Anyways, that apart when Tharani wrote this post on Whys, I refused to answer her queries saying I had enough of R’s whys. But then Tharani really wanted answers, and me being me, who has met Tharani and thinks the world of her, thought let me at least try answering her Whys
Why do we meet right people at wrong time?
So that we can remember and say oh that means, we met that wrong person at the right time darn!
Why not many men blog??
I know men who blog. You dont follow men who blog so start searching for men who blog. Because there are men who blog (you got it!).
Why the spirit of new year stays only for that week and life starts feeling so drab yet again?
Thats easy, because the office work starts again coupled with the fact that you cant find excuses to eat rich food again until Pongal/ Uttrayan. Then you find life interesting again 🙂
Then Tharani has asked three questions in one sentence, but since I am the mother of a 5 year old who understands only one thing at a time, I will answer them separately!
Why is it very difficult to accept things the way they are.
If we started accepting the way things were, then we would not have figured out new things in life no? Imagine if the Newton had just let the apple fall without wondering why it happened, or your nosy neighbour doesnt ask you questions about when you are having your child, life would be so drab no?
Why is it very difficult to let go and move on?
Because humans have this really stupid concept of linking the brain to the heart and in the battle of the brain and heart, sometimes the heart just wins over.
Why does the heart always thinks about, what if ‘s and if only’s?
Because the heart has got this sensitive tips inside it which keep blinking once in a while and then sending unwanted messages to the brain which makes you think in what ifs and only ifs. And then if the heart didnt do that, you wouldnt be living eh?
Why does the boss decide to take leave only when you are on leave?
Because he is the BOSS. If he really wanted you to take leaves, he wouldnt purposely take leaves when you took them eh?
Why is it, only when you finally decide on something you get to hear all bad things about it?
Because you just want to hear the worst of it. And then you will still decide on that thing only, because you are human eh?
Why are we holding on to someone who hurts and makes you cry?
Because unfortunately, we are a clingy species. Make me cry, but I will cling to you because you are mine or something in those lines!
Why is it very difficult to love unconditionally ?
Why love unconditionally, I ask. Always love conditionally, because we came alone in this world and we will go alone. Unconditional love exists only in movies and books and infants darling!
Why are we only interested in complicating things when life itself is very simple?
Because we all love our complications. For eg, I can just take a rick and come to work and spend 1/2 my salary on it. But i dont do that. I take a bus AND a rick AND a train AND a rick to get to work. WE all love our complications. And life is not simple darling. Absolutely not simple. Even boiling milk in the morning comes with its complications of milk falling from the packet, milk overflowing from the vessel if you dont look at it, milk getting spoilt if you havent cleaned your scissors after cutting the chips packet, yaada yaada. Life is never simple. Its a myth!
Why why why?
Okay, all whys answered!
Now please send me some nice murukkus from Chennai to compensate for all the jalebis you made of my thoughts!
PS – Thanks for all your comments on yesterday’s post. When R grows older and hopefully reads her mom’s blog she will feel wonderful that she has such lovely people to support her and make her feel like a queen/ princess/ R 🙂