So BlogAdda has this contest, which says ‘What are the 5 things that you would want to gift your child for their secure future and why?’
Interesting no? They talk about whether that aeroplane given this birthday will take your son to Stanford or a princess doll given your daughter will ensure she looks like one on her wedding day? *Why this Gender Stereotyping?*
Anyways, so here’s what I wish I can teach her when she grows up which I think will be appropriate gifts 🙂
1. Be gender neutral – Always. Always. Remember what a girl can do, so can a boy. There is nothing like this can be done only by girls and this can be done only by boys. Every job, every action, can be done both by boys and girls. That doesnt mean you should forget your feminine side. Remember there is nothing wrong in liking frilly clothes or wanting to wear heels. Its only wrong if you expect all girls to follow it. Never say oh thats for boys, or oh thats for girls, or oh I could do it if I were a boy or something in those lines. You can and you have the ability to do it, you just need to will for it!
2. Remember to each his/her own – And this decision is for everyone and anyone. Parents,children, friends, relatives, acquaintances, collegues, that lady on the road, that man on the bus, that child with the bag, anyone. Always, always respect people’s individuality and their choices. I can like blue colour, that doesnt make me less feminine and you can like pink colour that doesnt make you more feminine. As long as your choices dont hurt anyone, physically, emotionally or sentimentally, its totally okay to have a stand and remember to leave each to his/her own.
3. Your body is your own – No one, I repeat, NO ONE else has a right on it. Until YOU give them the right. What you wear, how you dress, what you want to do with it, is your choice. Get a tattoo, a piercing, a painted figure, whatever. (Psst, after you turn 18 okay?) No one has a right to abuse, pass comments on it, or treat it with indignity. Remember to love your physical self, and everyone will automatically love you!
4. No job is too menial if its done with honesty – Yes. You be a sweeper, hair dresser, author, chef, baker or zumba instructor. Be honest to your profession and respect everyone else in theirs. Also some people may opt out of a job when they have children or other responsibilities. Remember that they may have done it out of choice or out of compulsion. But that doesnt mean you scorn upon them. I have seen many a stay-at-home-moms being laughed up by working mothers, which is really really weird, because they do an equally important and self respecting job as anyone else! never, ever, ever mock anyone’s profession!
5. Be nice to people and respect them – And the world will automatically be nice to you. Sometimes, you will feel the necessity to be rude and get things done, but remember in the long run, a bit of politeness always works wonders. People may not respond to you in the same manner, you may find yourself losing your cool or you may feel the need to vent out your frustrations, but honestly with experience I have learnt, that often a polite response to a rude one, often defuses situations. Of course, easy to preach but very difficult to follow 🙂
So these are the five gifts of mine to my brat. Whether it makes it to the contest or not, thank you BlogAdda for giving me the idea for this post!