The Gifts?

So BlogAdda has this contest, which says ‘What are the 5 things that you would want to gift your child for their secure future and why?’

Interesting no? They talk about whether that aeroplane given this birthday will take your son to Stanford or a princess doll given your daughter will ensure she looks like one on her wedding day? *Why this Gender Stereotyping?*

Anyways, so here’s what I wish I can teach her when she grows up which I think will be appropriate gifts πŸ™‚

1. Be gender neutral – Always. Always. Remember what a girl can do, so can a boy. There is nothing like this can be done only by girls and this can be done only by boys. Every job, every action, can be done both by boys and girls. That doesnt mean you should forget your feminine side. Remember there is nothing wrong in liking frilly clothes or wanting to wear heels. Its only wrong if you expect all girls to follow it. Never say oh thats for boys, or oh thats for girls, or oh I could do it if I were a boy or something in those lines. You can and you have the ability to do it, you just need to will for it!

2. Remember to each his/her own – And this decision is for everyone and anyone. Parents,children, friends, relatives, acquaintances, collegues, that lady on the road, that man on the bus, that child with the bag, anyone. Always, always respect people’s individuality and their choices. I can like blue colour, that doesnt make me less feminine and you can like pink colour that doesnt make you more feminine. As long as your choices dont hurt anyone, physically, emotionally or sentimentally, its totally okay to have a stand and remember to leave each to his/her own.

3. Your body is your own – No one, I repeat, NO ONE else has a right on it. Until YOU give them the right. What you wear, how you dress, what you want to do with it, is your choice. Get a tattoo, a piercing, a painted figure, whatever. (Psst, after you turn 18 okay?) No one has a right to abuse, pass comments on it, or treat it with indignity. Remember to love your physical self, and everyone will automatically love you!

4. No job is too menial if its done with honesty – Yes. You be a sweeper, hair dresser, author, chef, baker or zumba instructor. Be honest to your profession and respect everyone else in theirs. Also some people may opt out of a job when they have children or other responsibilities. Remember that they may have done it out of choice or out of compulsion. But that doesnt mean you scorn upon them. I have seen many a stay-at-home-moms being laughed up by working mothers, which is really really weird, because they do an equally important and self respecting job as anyone else! never, ever, ever mock anyone’s profession!

5. Be nice to people and respect them – And the world will automatically be nice to you. Sometimes, you will feel the necessity to be rude and get things done, but remember in the long run, a bit of politeness always works wonders. People may not respond to you in the same manner, you may find yourself losing your cool or you may feel the need to vent out your frustrations, but honestly with experience I have learnt, that often a polite response to a rude one, often defuses situations. Of course, easy to preach but very difficult to follow πŸ™‚

So these are the five gifts of mine to my brat. Whether it makes it to the contest or not, thank you BlogAdda for giving me the idea for this post!

1001 Gifts Activity by HDFC Life in association with BlogAdda

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44 Responses to The Gifts?

  1. techie2mom says:

    Perfect gifts, RM!! The choice of the gift shows how wise you are πŸ™‚

  2. Shweta says:

    Loved it R.
    You are one super Santa mom with super awesome gifts! πŸ™‚

  3. Shweta says:

    Loved it RM.
    You are one super Santa mom with super awesome gifts! πŸ™‚

  4. Sri says:

    Really nice gifts!!
    All the best for the contest!:)

    Had heard of BlogAdda but haven’t explored it much…will try to register myself there..

  5. Lovely post, RM. Makes a lot of sense. I agree with each word of this post.
    Good luck for the contest! πŸ™‚

  6. Maya says:

    Beautiful! One of the best posts of yours till date. Good luck with the contest, RM! πŸ™‚

  7. chattywren says:

    Great gifts! Love, values and good upbringing are the best gifts that parents can give their children, IMO.

  8. The Bride says:

    I love your gifts. I think they are fitting response to the sexist tagline of the contest as well. I’m sure these attitudes will hold R in good stead in her future, as much as a deposit in a bank or whatever.

  9. I love your gifts RM! I got really annoyed when I read the way the contest was set out — once again, it reinforces stereotypes that boys will apparently study further but for girls, marriage is the one and only thing to aspire for. Gah!!!

  10. summerscript says:

    Your gifts are precious ! I love you! πŸ™‚

  11. Nidaa says:

    Nice hamper! Best things in life are free after all… :).
    I especially need lessons in no.5.
    Sometimes a bit of shouting do get the work done on time by your team. But the bitterness lingers. No matter how much you try to make up by explaining yourselves, give gifts or be extra extra nice after the deadline, its always there. Being polite is much easier way in the long run.
    Toast to a secure future!

  12. Ashwathy says:

    Beautiful πŸ™‚ And this is why I survive as your lil sis. Because, in spite of all the bickering, we share the same wavelength for all these things.

  13. Comfy says:

    RM..here is a big big hug for you. Hope R takes these gifts, grows with them and make them her own.

  14. Veens says:

    Yep those are the “gifts” we need to give our kiddos.
    And my list would be for my boy would be to not “see” the “differences” in boy and girl – to discriminate; but to respect it and accept that Girls can be better; just like the opposite can also be true. And the real heroics is not in a punch, but in knowing when to avoid it. And to treat everyone the same way, of course! And to remember that failures are stepping stones to success.
    And that however bad things get, we will always be there for him. Oh so many things…

  15. ashreyamom says:

    all the best RM.. they are the best gifts which you can give anyone.. :).

  16. Nikita Goel says:

    A sooperr Mom you would be !!!!!

  17. Rachna says:

    Great, unbiased thinking and gifts!

  18. A very honest and practical post…we need such gifts for the kids these days…all the best for the contest!

  19. Love your advice RM! You are a sweetheart !!

  20. afshan says:

    Cool !
    What more can be better gifts ?
    Love ur take R’s Mom

  21. kitchenmummy says:

    how true! Be yourself and yet respect other people’s views and opinions.. such a balanced and thoughtful lesson! good luck and happy new year πŸ™‚

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