Which I think is really a super cool thing to do.
Today, I am wearing a not very flattering to my paunch shirt. I have a girl in office come to me and say discreetly, Dont wear this shirt again.
Why I ask her
Because it makes you look pregnant!
I was taken aback for a second. Admitted this lady is a good friend, we often order in food together etc…but was her comment really needed. When I wear clothes, I wear them because I like them. Or do we wear them because others should like it?
I definitely believe one should wear as per the occasion, you know, spaghetti tops in a Tambram wedding is not a great idea and stuff like that. But as long as one is appropriately dressed, does anyone really have a right to comment on anyone’s dressing.
On a slightly different note, I wore a long Indian print skirt and a black top coupled with ethnic oxidised jewellery on Friday, where they were celebrating Dusshera at work. A lot of women came and asked me why I wasnt traditionally dressed. To be honest, my skirt looked like a ghaghara and when I wore it in the morning, I thought I was dressed traditional. But no, as per the office folks, only saree constitutes traditional Indian wear! So basically I wasnt dressed to the occasion and offended the feeling of others. But in my mind, when I left work, I thought I was definitely dressed for the occasion. So basically its a matter of perspective I guess.
Anyways, personally I do pass compliments. A lot of them infact. Wearing a nice saree, or wow, that colour looks great on you. But I have NEVER told anyone ever that dont wear this dress, it makes you look pregnant, or stop wear jeans, your bum looks horrendous.
On the other hand, one may argue, if one is close enough, why not tell the truth? You know, this is not looking good, you shouldnt wear it next time, or something in those lines…
I dont know. to be really honest, I did feel a bit sad when my ‘friend’ told me that I was looking pregnant, but when I sat down to write this post, it doesnt bother me anymore. Theek hai, pregnant toh pregnant yaar, I have a paunch cant hide it eh?
What about you? Do you pass truthful comments or just give positive compliments? and if your friend gives you a ‘truthful’ comment, will that affect you?