About three days ago, R was in the potty. She looked at the body wash which RD had got for us..its a nice pink colour and R is a pink freak now! So she said ‘Amma, which body wash you use karing’
I told her the pink one
R: No, Amma, you dont use pink, I will use pink
RM: arey why not we can share na?
R: No Amma, you are cream colour and nice, I am black, if I use pink colour, then I will also become nice and cream like you
I was so shocked, that she brought up the topic !
RM: Who told you about all this black and cream R?
R: Arey that Ri and An in my daycare na. They tell me they are white and white is good, and I am black, and black is not good na Amma, toh I told them, I will also become white soon..hai na Amma
Darn! I must admit, I didnt expect this happening so soon..at 5 children discuss skin colour!
and this is the second or the third time she has come up with this comparison of skin..it happened a couple of months earlier, but she wasnt really specific..she just asked me why she was dark and I was not as dark as she was and I told her everyone is different and she seemed satisfied.
I told her that her skin was nice yummy chocolate brown colour and that it was smooth and pretty and shiny. That God gives everyone the different skin colours, That whats important is how nice a person is, the skin colour doesnt matter at all! But somehow, all that sounded really shallow to me 😦
I wonder what makes little girls of five years even discuss the colour of the skin? Advertisements, overhearing adult conversations, I dont know..I really dont know 😦
I must admit, we NEVER EVER EVER talk about fairness of skin in the house..at least not RD and I. I have to confess here that I do tell her about her skin being dry like her Appa and my skin being oily. This is only to make her put her cream in the night after a bath..otherwise her skin gets very dry and it itches…but colour of the skin NEVER!
I am upset. and when I told this to Amma, she says, it may just get worse when she grows older..may be in class 3 or class 4 when kids are at their most vulnerable self and kids can also get nasty enough to pass personal comments.
I am honestly very upset.