Dear Book Publishers/ Syllabus Makers of Bombay Kindergarten – Please note that I am not very sure I want my child to learn the following…
1. Mother works in the kitchen and gets children ready to school. Father works in office and teaches children and tells them stories.
Jeez! Seriously! thanks for telling me that. Honestly in my house, both Father AND mother work, both father and mother get the child ready to school, only mother teaches the child (father does it under very dire circumstances) and only mother tells stories (no RD just replacing R as the tortoise in the rabbit and tortoise race doesnt qualify to be a story okie?) In short, my child is seeing something at home, and learning something completely different in school? how the hell do you expect children to learn equality if they are not taught that in school.
Are you teaching an entire generation that women are meant to work at home and men are meant to work in office. Are you teaching an entire generation of children that women are expected to get the children dressed to school, while men are supposed to just sit at tell stories…please!
They say the KG children are the easiest to influence and brain wash. Isnt that what you are doing? I am astonished that no one has ever thought about this issue. and the brat of mine, for whom whatever her teacher says is ‘pather pe lakeer’ (A line on stone) she is perplexed how she is going to explain to teacher that her Amma goes to office and her Appa makes hot cheese dosas for her! Is this what we want to teach our children???
2. More than two children family is NOT happy family.
No you didnt tell that explicitly, but you show a family with 4 children and 2 children, and then point out the one with 2 children as happy family. seriously? I dont believe it. I can have 10 children and yet be a happy family. I dont think happiness lies in the number of children you have, it lies in the fact that how cohesive are you as a family. If you want to point out that having lesser children means better provisions provided for each child, I dont think that message comes across. you dont even need to compare na. Just say a mother, father, two children make a family. Thats all you want to show kids right?
3. A joint family is a large family (read as not a happy family) who said that? Personally, I am not a fan of a joint family, but I know loads and loads of joint families which exist in total harmony and seem to be extremely happy. Are you telling us to teach our children that they cant live with parents and spouse and grand children together? What is the logic of that!
4. A father is the head of the family.
Jeez! in my house, there was no HEAD of the family. The parents were just the brains and heart of the family who took decisions TOGETHER. Again what are you teaching my child? That her father controls the family. Honestly, I dont think RD does anything without discussing it with me and vice versa and thats how a marriage should be.
Are you teaching young boys that they can dominate over the women in their life. No seriously tell me whats the logic of calling the father as the head of the family! I am really upset when I read such things!
While you may say, its only about teaching young minds, but honestly I dont agree. These are the future generation of our world, if we dont teach them equality who will? And as publishers/syllabus makers of books for young children, these are point you SHOULD have kept in mind, isnt it?
If you want to teach a kid about family, just say father mother grandfather grandmother na? whats the point!!
and then what takes the cake
Parents live for their children. Please note that most parents I know have children because THEY want the children, but that doesnt mean they live for their children. They live for themselves and enjoy having children. Dont give wrong ideas to children. Tomorrow if the parent says no, they will think ‘arey in the book it was written, they live for us and now they are not giving us what they want‘ Dont teach children such stuff. I dont think its a very healthy attitude.
A very very concerned working mother
Cross Posted here (http://www.indianmomsconnect.com/2013/06/25/and-so-the-fight-begins/)