Gosh! you turned five…and I still cant believe it. For someone who had been desperately waiting for her brat to turn 5, I dont think it has sunk into my mommy brain yet.
When you were an infant, I used to tell all and sundry that I couldnt wait for you to grow up and have your own opinion and clean your own bum (hey thats an important lesson in life okay) and wear your own clothes and eat your own food…but now..well, I grudgingly admit, you are doing all that especially the opinion thingie! and I am not liking it gah!
Darling, human beings have really funny emotions..when they realise they are going to lose something, they cling to it more and more..in my case, I am realising that I am losing you to yourself..where you have your thoughts, your ideas, your understanding and its pinching me somewhere…While your Appa feels I give you too much independence, honestly I am glad I am learning the act of letting go bit by bit…
The ultimate came last week when Appa asked you if you would go and stay in Goa with Baroda thatha thathi and Calcutta thathi..you agreed in a heart beat…I must admit, my heart sunk a bit..I tried talking to you about how Amma Appa wont be coming along..
Chalega, thathi hai na you told me nonchalantly..and thats when I realised, now I HAVE to treat you like an individual..you cease to be my extension, but are your own person.
Funny, thats what I wanted you to be right from the start..and so why is the independence making me all nostalgic 🙂
You are a good girl R.
I doubt you will remember this, but when we went to that play in NPCA a few weeks ago, you got a paper puppet in cat form which could be inserted into your finger. You kept it safe all through the play, and afterwards when we went to the wash room, there was a girl, pretty much your age, who looked at the puppet in your finger and said ‘I want that mama’
Her mama said ‘well we came late and you missed getting it’
She said ‘but I want it mama’
and you looked at her, looked at me, and looked at her mama, and just took it off your finger and asked ‘you want?’ you take. Mereko nahi wanting’
I must admit all three of us were shocked with the ease you gave it away. Her mama asked you ‘you sure’ and you answered ‘yes I sure’ and hugged the girl and went into the bathroom.
I was just rendered speechless, because this comes from a girl who goes ‘mera hai, mera hai’
I just hope that in life you realise that the more you share, the more you get. okay darling?
1.You talk pretty fluently on the phone though your favorite dialogue is okay bye..
2. I was surprised to hear you say ‘arey yaar’ the other day..thats something you got from me eh?
3. You know how to push the right buttons and get things done, though your crying for everything just gets on to our nerves at times…well just saying eh?
4. you still refuse to read on your own and I dont think I am ever going to get you to do that 🙂
5. Your language is still a mixture of Hindi, Gujarati, Marathi, English,
Tamizh..though you prefer Hindi over anything. You seem to think in Hindi and translate later..its funny at times to see you struggle for the right word in English and then give up and mix the present continous tense with a Hindi/Gujju word
6. Your demand for a chotu baby is ever increasing
The other day, Appa asked you on the phone, what do you want for your birthday?
you answered promptly ‘Mereko Gems venum’
Thats it? asked an astonished Appa
Yes yes, mereko gems leke aao Goa, theek hai? okay bye
Darling, hope your life is full of Gems and with tons of hugs and surrounded by love.
Now for the usual yearly instructions given in your every birthday letter
1. Be good to others
2. Be polite to people and treat everyone with equal respect
3. I want you to be happy in your own way, do what you wish to do as long as it doesnt affect other people in a wrong way.
4. Save water, electricity and take care of the environment
5. Believe in equality, thats more important than asking for special favors
6. Believe in yourself, because only you know what you are capable of
7. Try and try again, and never be afraid to fail, becuase the more you fail, the higher you will go in life
8. Life will throw a lot of challenges, its always okay to let go of few of them, we are not superhumans 🙂
9. Take care of your fitness, you dont need to have a size zero figure (you will never have it thanks to the fat genes of amma appa) but keep yourself fit enough to catch a running local train (safely safely)
10. Be content in life, if you achieve that, everything else will follow
and Remember, Amma is always there for you okay?