I go to the wash room. I see two ladies very seriously discussing something. I dont interfere, wash my hands and on my way out, I smile at them.
They look at me seriously.
RM: Is anything wrong?
Lady 1 (L1) : Yes yes..
RM: What happened? hope nothing serious?
Lady 2 (L2): Its her daughter’s class 12 results day after tomorrow
L1: I am so tensed
L1: arey, uska result hai. I am thinking of taking the day off tomorrow
RM: you mean day after tomorrow
L1: No no tomorrow, so that I dont have to listen to 100 people reminding me that its her result tomorrow
RM: Why would that bother you?
L1: Oh I am terribly tensed
RM: But, but,….if people ask you, just say its not your result, its your daughter’s result right? She wrote the papers…
L2: Arey RM, you wont understand, my daughter’s class 10 results will come right after the class 12 results, Id ont think I will be even able to hear about the results…I am so so tensed myself
By now, I am really confused, who gave the exams..
RM: But but…I still dont understand, why are you ladies tensed? if you are tensed, wont that scare your kids…its just results right..and we all know how reliable the 10 and 12th std results are..so its fine..and honestly, now that I have some maturity, I dont think the marks really matter so much…I know of loads of people who got only 40-50% in their boards, but now are earning twice of what I am..I dont think you should get so tensed about it and anyways you didnt write the papers, the kids did…
L1: You know last year, I was checking my cousin’s daughter’s results online and while the website was loading I got so tensed that my BP shot up and I had severe head ache..
Now I am wondering what I will be doing day after tomorrow
L2: I think I will just faint and will need to be hospitalised
RM: but but..its only results right..do we really need to take so much tension about it
L2: you wont know now RM, your kid is only in Jr. Kg..let her come to class 10 and 12, let me see how you are
Honestly, as parents, are we putting unnecessary pressure on our kids by getting so tensed about their results? Will the kids feel the pressure? Will they bother about not meeting their parents expectations? are parents measuring their success on their children’s results? Isnt that wrong?
God, please please dont let me be like L1 and L2 when my child gives her boards…