I think in my 4 years and 10 months as a parent, I have concluded that definitely.
I read this (http://lifeandtimesinbangalore.wordpress.com/2013/04/14/give-the-guilt-up-first/)) wonderful post by Sangi (Well, all her posts are wonderful, but this one touch a chord very near to the heart)
When I was really sick last month and was in bed, RD, my Amma and R were all sitting next to me. Something happened and R said ‘Mereko jabhi chotu baby hoyega toh main toh uske saath rahungi, main usko daycare nahi chodungi, aur maine office nahi jaungi’ (When I have a small baby, I will stay with the baby, not leave the baby in the daycare and I will not go to office)
I was shell shocked doesnt even describe what I felt. I had tears welling up my eyes (I have conjunctivitis as well, anyways there were tears gah!) when my Amma, looked at me and explained to me that all kids go through this stage in life between 5 years to 10 years. Initially they crib, but eventually they are proud of their mothers working. I was the same she said with a smile. RD meanwhile had taken R out of the room and they were playing.
Since Amma made me feel good about the whole thing, I didnt take it seriously. Plus after reading Sangi’s post, I was determined to say Gah! to the Guilt..until
Today morning the brat said the same words again. When I have a small baby, I will stay at home with the child and not send the child to daycare.
I asked the brat why she is saying that, and she told me aise hi, maine decide kar diya hai (Just like that, I have decided!)
and I felt the guilt again.
Is this just a child’s thought or does she really not want a working mother? Does she really miss me or is this her way of telling me that she wants to sleep a little longer? I dont know, but Sangi, I am really sorry to tell you, that I have concluded that there can not be any gah to guilt from my end, at least as far as parenting is concerned 😦