I remember that scene from English Vinglish very vividly of Sridevi asking her niece about ‘being judgemental’ and the explanation about it
I am wondering how ‘judgemental’ I am…I think I was more judgemental earlier, than I am now…Now, I am making a conscious effort not to be ‘judgemental’
Whether I agree to the other person or not, I am trying my level best to adopt a neutral view, a view which tries to look at the opposite person’s view point as well..
I may not agree in most cases, but I dont judge the other person as bad/orthodox/selfish/opiniated etc…I just try to be objective and neutral..and trust me, its not easy…
I do get bugged when people expect you to follow really weird rituals and then I get judgmental about them..like I mentioned in my previous post about Chittappa’s funeral….I dont want to..I mean, seriously, they are just following what they feel is perfectly fine to follow or what they have been taught to follow, and who am I to judge them?
Or when someone in the family talks about someone else not really feeling sorry and behaving normally despite the death…I mean what do you expect? that everyone should just spend their time crying or should they make an effort to move on? But, I am trying not to be judgemental about it..fine its their opinion and just because they feel like that, doesnt mean the person in sorrow is wrong eh?
or when a mother feeds chips to her crying child at the airport…I did the same to R on Sunday while trying back from Calcutta, and smack it to me, that I had no right being judgemental about that mother earlier…as you sow, so you reap eh?
or when a person says he follows a particular ritual because he finds peace in it…who am I to judge what the guy wants to do…let him do it? but trust me, I used to be judgemental about that person earlier..
I have realised, as long as the actions/words of the other person dont harm anyone in any manner, physically or emotionally, its better to just let things be…
I confess, I am finding it extremely difficult to be neutral, but at least I am trying to make an effort…I may immediately pass a statement which sounds terribly judgemental, but in hind sight, I am trying to correct myself…
Well, maturity settling in eh?