Please note that if I ever decide to move on to the next world if there is any, DO NOT..I repeat, DO NOT do any rituals for me AT ALL…ever…
just give my eyes to the nearest eyebank and then just burn me or something..thats it…nothing else…if you really want to do anything, just give something to an orphanage, or an old age home..honestly…
I dont want any 10th day, 11th day, 12th day, 13th day or any day function..please…Remember me as the brat who made your life tough, instead of doing mindless rituals which seem to suffocate me!
I dont want anything to be done at all…
I attended Chitappa’s 10th day function in Calcutta yesterday and actually shed tears by the end of it…I missed him, I felt horrible inside when I saw my young-but-have-to-mature-suddenly cousin just do the rituals which seemed mindless to me..
Making an 8 month pregnant daughter of his bend to do stuff which seem meaningless…I honestly was bugged..
RD kept giving me soothing looks hoping I dont flare up like crazy…but seriously, I doubt whether chittappa would have wanted all this
There is this ritual where we put food in a piece of veshti…nice food you know, rice and idlis, and vadas, and vadams, and appams…but the way its put…I mean…its sad that they expect that when a body goes away, a soul just wants to gobble everything down..its all put together…no demarcation or anything…heap the rice in the middle and then surround it by everything else..why why why?
The ladies of the house have to do this ritual with their hair open..seriously?
I am really upset about the whole thing…Thankfully, I didnt burst out, kept my mouth shut and just did what the priest was telling us to do…tried to help out my pregnant sister in law a little bit but the girl was so wanting to do for her father…I dont blame her!
Honestly, I found the entire 10th day function a waste of energy, time, money and food..for the lovely man that chittappa was, I am sure he would have agreed to me!
Thank God, I didnt stay further to do the other rituals…I am glad I am back to Bombday!
and some people may argue that the functions are held for 13 days so that the family adjusts to the loss..but seriously, after that what? everyone goes away, the lonliness sinks in and then you miss the guy even more is it?
I dont know, I am challenging rituals which have been forever in place…I am challenging sentiments of people who want to do it…
But, dear Family, I swear, for me, dont do any of these things..please please..
It will just make a happy soul sad 😦