About Her Mother’s Spots – Blogging Marathon Post 15

RD is going to Sabarimalai in Feb and hence has started praying every evening. (errr…he prays short cut the other days, now a days he is in the long way mode 🙂 )

R asked me one day why I dont pray like Appa does?

I told her ‘well, Appa believes in prayers and waise bhi if Appa is praying, then I dont need to, he is doing it for the family, and you dont HAVE to pray as such, prayers may have other forms’

R looked into my eyes and said ‘Well, aap bahut lazy ho, iske liye nahi karte ho na?’

Expect the spawn of your womb to figure out who you are exactly eh?

As a part of the prayers, RD puts vibuthi on my forehead and on R’s

Earlier, RD used to do it everyday for R but for the past month, she shakes her head away whenever he tries to do it.

RD has tried everything from cajoling to telling it lovingly to putting just a bit, she refuses.

I thought, since RD gets all very enthused and puts a big blob on our head with force which looks like a big white full moon slightly stretched on the head, she doesnt like it…

So, I told him to be a bit gentle with her and try.

When Amma was around, R would put it. but other wise she refuses.

On last Wed, I asked her, kya hua R, why arent you putting it, its just a small bit

R: Mereko acha nahi lagta

RM: Why da?

R: Baas aise hi

RM: But Appa has become so gentle with it, even then you dont like it?

R: Because everyone calls me a Malayali girl, I dont want to be Malayali girl, I want to be Gujarati girl

I was shocked for a second…

RM: But who called you Malayali girl

R: My friend K

RM: But when did you put vibuthi and go to school, Amma doesnt put for you in the morning

R: pehele appa ne dala two days, when you were unwell and then K called me malayali girl, I dont like it

RM: But whats wrong in being a Malayali girl

R: I dont know

RM: Then why not put it…and anyways, just by putting vibuthi you dont become any kind of girl

R: I dont like it

RM: But Amma is a malayali girl and so is Thathi..whats wrong with us?

R: You have spots on your face

I was definitely shocked..I didnt know what to tell her..and I do have loads of spots on my face

RM: So whats wrong with that?

R: Well, Appa doesnt have it

RM: Right, but amma has and I want to know whats wrong in having spots

R: Mereko acha nahi lagta

RM: Agreed, but does our spots make us bad?Do we have bad manners?

R: No, you are nice Amma

RM : Exactly. Having spots or not having spots doesnt make anyone good, bad, malayali or Gujarati. At the end of the day, its your manners and good behaviour which make you a nice person. Suppose you have a friend who is very pretty, but keeps being rude, will you call her a good girl?

R: nahi

RM: So thats what?

She didnt say anything after that..she touched my spotted face and looked away.

WE stopped the discussion there………

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today morning…

I am trying to comb my unruly hair into a bun, while R is ‘reading’ the book, Sudhagee gave us

I like the book Amma she says

Just to bug her, I ask ‘what do you like more?  – reading or watching TV

R: Mereko both acha lagta hai

RM: Good

R: But you know mere sabse zyada kya acha lagta hai

RM: Sleeping..no no..wait..eating

R giggles..nahi nahi

RM:Dancing, jumping, running

R: no no no

RM: then what?

R: Woh jo abhi apne hair bana rahi hai (the one who is combing her hair right now )

Darn! Kids do say the darnest things that mush up your heart eh?