RD and I have had loads of discussion on the gang rape, solutions, etc etc…
On the way back from dropping Amma to the airport, I was so bugged and irritated, that I told him ‘those bloody guys should be given capital punishment and done away with’
RD asked me ‘and you think it will solve the problem?’
RM: I dont know really
RD: Well, I dont think its a solution..because murder has capital punishment..has that stopped people from being murdered…What needs to be done to Nirbhaya’s rapists is something I am not sure, but I do think we need to be more practical in our approach towards crime against women
RM: So what are you suggesting
RD: Well, firstly, we must stop victim blaming..we need to sensitize our police force into accepting that women do get raped and we must make them sensitive enough such that women who under go the horrendous experience at least are able to complain without fear of society…this needs to be done at the basic level..we need to teach our police force to be sensitive..if need be have women police in every station…women may find it easier to open out to women…and women police who understand and are sympathetic..who dont look at the victim with degrading eyes..who give courage to the victim to complain….
Secondly, ensure that every rape/attempted rape/eve teasing incident reported goes into a fast track court….within 3 months, the judgement should be out..the police need to be prompt in investigation..while this seems to be a pipe dream, in reality most murderers get away with murder only because they know the case will take 20 years to pass a judgement, then again 10 years for the appeal and then again 10 years for something else…Why? just give them three months to decide..and this should be done for EVERY complain…however small or large it is…
Why do people get away with rape? because they are sure, nothing will happen to them…
You know RM, I dont think rapists enjoy the sexual act as such, they may be under pressure, what they enjoy is showing off their ‘manhood’ the power that comes in their minds..its a mental game for them..show off their strength in front of a weakling…and why do they think they get away with it, because they are confident that most victims wont report…
Its very sad…we need a system, which firstly is sensitive to victims, two, which ensures fast gathering of the facts, and three which passes judgements within three months..
If that happens, most potential rapists, will know that they cant get away with it…they will be scared..
RM: you really think so?
RD:Well, thats what I feel…forget rape RM..look at it this way…today, if an eve teaser is just ignored..he gets confident..he feels, if I can get away with eve teasing, I can get away with groping..then he starts groping…he feels if no one complains against my groping, that means no one will complain if I go a step further..and then he may graduate to rape..
at the end of the day, its all about showing your power…
we need to stop people from eve teasing..if you nip the problem at the bud, its only then we can expect rape levels to come down..
and more importantly, we need to teach our boys, that a girl is equal..not better not worse..just an equal with a different anatomy..but equal..girls dont need special treatment..they just need equal treatment..
We just wandered into other topics after that..
But do you agree…do you think these solutions will bring down rape in India?