Yesterday, R and I were having our usual race in the morning to fight time. We rushed down the stairs and semi ran to the bus stop. Thankfully the usual 7 AM BEST bus was not yet there.
but what we saw was a crowd. A crowd of young and not so young boys and girls. One of them was smoking. He saw me coming with a child, but didnt bother to put it off. I made R stand a bit away from that guy.
We were still waiting for the bus. There were about 2-3 large jeeps (Innova or something in those lines which all look similar to a automobile-ly challenged person like me!) which the people moving in and out of it.
I realised that they were wrapping up a shoot in the night. Now the thing with our area is there is a lot of marsh land towards the other side of our building and I think these guys were shooting something there.
Then we saw a girl wearing a mini skirt who I thought was the lead heroine. She was talking to someone and then one guy came next to her and he wrapped his arms around her and they were standing right behind R and I.
I moved a bit and said hello to the usual ladies we meet at the bus stop.
R was looking around absolutely fascinated by the entire scene.
I saw a guy pointing a camera like thing at R. I didnt react to it. I thought may be is trying to adjust the focal length and R was the most non controversial person around he could try it on. The guy who had wrapped his arms around the lead girl,(I think he was either the director or the lead actor or something) was asking him to take some stuff from the camera. There were jokes about a ST bus becoming a school bus.
The camera guy still kept pointing the camera towards R. I got a bit uneasy.
I looked at the lead guy and asked him ‘Did you just take a picture of my daughter’
He looked at me and said in a not very polite tone ‘well, we took a video’
I saw red. I actually said very loudly ‘Did you ask me permission before that?‘
He very nonchalantly replied ‘oh this is for the TV’
RM: :So what, did you ask me for permission? arent you supposed to do that?
He: Hey camera guy, why didnt you ask her for permission
I lost it completely. First he was telling the camera man to do the stuff and then he acted as if the poor camera guy was at fault.
RM: Please delete that video
and then everyone started staring at me. I was loud and trust me early in the morning, I am VERY loud
By this time, R was a bit scared by my tone and she gripped my hand hard
RM: I said, please delete that video. I dont want my child’s video to be on any camera without my permission
The lead girl looked at me as if I was nuts. The crew stared at me while the usual crowd wondered what went wrong.
RM: Will you delete that video
Lead: yes we will
By this time unfortunately the bus came. IF I missed that bus, R would miss her school bus.
RM: Are you sure its going to be deleted
Lead: yes yes pakka
RM: I am getting on to this bus because I have to leave, but I hope I can trust you enough to do it.
Lead: yes madam we will definitely delete it. and the lead lady nodded her head.
I got into the bus.
I am still angry.
1. I should have let R miss the bus and definitely confirmed if they deleted the video. but I wasnt thinking straight. I have learnt that when I am angry, I am not logical
2. How dare they take her video without asking me? Isnt that wrong? Where is my privacy? What if they used the video for something and then it went online into something else?
May be I have a very vivid imagination and I am paranoid. But I dont care, I dont want my child’s picture anywhere unless I approve it
3. Didnt they have so much decency to ask me? Why didnt they? I would have refused, but I have that damn right to refusal isnt it?
It feels so much better to just type this down!