I must admit I salute you. Honestly. I personally think each one of you is a rockstar. I admire the fact you do the same tiresome routine day in and day out without a break, for 30-40 years not changing anything about it.
And I wonder how. In six years, I think I am close to exhaustion!
You get up early in the morning, manage to cook hot breakfast and lunch for the family. Get ready to go to work. and getting ready is not only wearing a Tee and a jeans. Getting ready means draping a saree, combing your hair to ensure you can put up the gajra which your husband got for you the previous night, matching bangles, earrings, necklace, lipstick.
And then you rush to catch a bus to go to the nearest station. There you rush to get into a train saving a seat not only for yourself but also for your group. You sometimes celebrate birthdays in the group, have group breakfasts where each of you get something extra for everyone else. It could be hot vadas or hot poha. I remember I stood against one of you in a crowded train and the hot dabba in your bag practically scalded my back. Ouch I went and you apologised saying that sorry nastha ka dabba thoda garam hai. Imagine making garam garam nastha early in the morning.
And then you discuss your life in general whether its home or work or children with your train friends, asking for opinions, making everyone laugh, and ensuring everyone is happy generally.
You get off to go to work and then catch the train back in the evening. Sometimes, you pod peas or clean the methi leaves in the train. Sometimes you just nod off till you are woken up by your friend. And sometimes you just chit chat generally cribbing about something. But always, get off the extremely crowded train with an enchanting smile saying by to your friends and wishing to see them soon the next day morning. Often you spend more than 2 hours one way travelling. Sometimes you change two trains. Sometimes, you walk a bit extra to buy that fresh subji from the market near your office.
You buy stuff in the train where you get it cheaper than in the market. Trinklets, hairbands, kurtas, farsan, sukha bhel, ear rings, nose rings, leggings and what not!
You go home and make your cup of tea. Then get to making your kids do their homework, give them something hot to eat, start preparing for the night’s dinner. Once the kids have eaten and gone to sleep, you watch a bit of TV waiting for your husband to get back who comes back tired by 10.30 or 11 in the night. You eat dinner, clean up prepare for the next morning and go to sleep only by about 12ish..and you are awake at 5 the next day morning to start the routine again.
Between all this, you also make out time to go to the parlour, shop for matching jewellery for the sarees you wear on festival days, check out the latest movies and ensure your kids have their projects done on time.
Sometimes you make some farsan at home, sometimes you make sweets, you take out time to go to Crawford market to get decorations for your child’s birthday party…
How do you do it? Day in and day out. Fighting the crowds of the trains, walking through the crowded traffic, waiting patiently for the bus, getting up early to ensure hot food for your family. You do it sometimes, with help from your spouse or sometimes with no help from any one. You pick up your kid from the babysitting and if your in laws are staying with you to help you take care of the kids, then you have to take care of their needs as well.
How exactly do you do it? dont you get frustrated? Everyday, same routine same work. I must admit, I am a fan of yours. A big big fan!
I think, you women rock big time!