The Bride, as usual, has written a very interesting post on living alone. Go take a look.
On reading that,and a discussion I had with my Amma, I was thinking of living alone in old age. (With RD if he was interested ;))
well, by living alone, what I mean is living without my child/children.
So my amma was telling us the other day about a cousin of hers and his wife who have sold off everything and put in money into an old age home and are living there happily.
My Amma being MY Amma says ‘I think its a good idea. At least I dont have to think what to cook today and why the maid didnt land up!’ *rolls eyes*
This lady sure has her set of priorities clear eh?
anyways, that apart, I was very impressed with this cousin mama mami of mine. Of course they dont have any kids. So may be it made that decision a bit easier. But in India, I have realised, we have a stigma against old age homes like how we have issues with women drinking or a couple divorcing.
I mean, whats wrong with old age homes? There are two ways of looking at them
1. You are there because your children have thrown you out.
2. You are there because you want to be there.
I wonder why people look at old people in India as if they only want to be grandparents and can have no fun.
I remember CR doing this lovely post about these an old couple going down a slide having so much fun and an old lady with absolutely matched nail paint etc.. CR, of course, lives in phoren land.
When was the last time you saw an old aunty painting her nails..infact even when my mom goes to the parlour to dye her hair, there are people commenting on it. Which is weird na…I mean just because you are a grand mother, doesnt mean you dont groom yourself the way you want to eh?
Anyways, I digress.
So old age homes.
Imagine them like a place where you get to meet people of your age group, you can play games, generally stare into eternity, read what you want, no one to tell you no, you get food on time, in case you are sick, you have doctors on call, you have company of friends.
Doesnt it sound exactly like a cool picnic from college or something…
I mean seriously, writing all this makes me wish I should retire right away!
so why not? Tomorrow, I dont want to be dependent on anyone during my old age. I would rather just stay put in an old age home and enjoy my life 🙂
I could perhaps go and visit R when she needs me or something.
I think Indian parents need to get independent. As a parent, I have realised that I have kids because I want them, that doesnt mean they are obliged to take care of me. I want kids..the kids never asked to be born, so dont burden them as budhape ka sahara.
I dont think its right on the children.
Of course, tomorrow if my parents need me, I will be there for them for sure, but when things lead to expectations, it really gets on to me. I EXPECT you to take care me during my old age, I have suffered so much for you, I have sacrificed so much for you. thats totally weird.
Also weird is the thought that once you are old you dont need your privacy…I mean boss, seriously, whats that logic? Yes, some people may want to stay with their grandchildren, but there may be some people who want to alone spending some time with their spouse or friends na?
Well, all in all, I think an old age home makes a lot of sense to me personally.
RD and I can start saving money now, put it in an old age home, and enjoy our retirement. eh?