Now a days, R has this thing of always wanting to be first…I dont know where she got it from because neither RD nor I have really ranked our accomplishments to her..or ever told her that you have to come first…I think this is one of the issues of having your kid in the daycare, everything becomes a competition…
Amma, main first milk drink karungi, or Amma, main first dahi finish karungi..and God forbid if we finish before her, there is a major tantrum throwing session…
I wonder why the teachers teach such things..is it because there are 40 kids in the daycare and they need to wrap up stuff on time, or what?
I must admit here, I have absolutely NO ISSUES with her daycare teachers…they are like mothers to R, perhaps even better than I…but again like her weird liking for Barbie thanks to her friends in the daycare, this is another issue…
So I have started telling the ulta thing to R…I dont see anything wrong in being last…I like to drink my milk slowly and enjoy it…I like to be last in the race to the potty…I like to be the last to get up from the dinning table and so on…I am not trying to teach her that last is good or you HAVE to be last in everything…, I am just trying to tell her that its okay to be last, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it…
…I dont want her to race in life, I dont want her to come first, I dont want her to believe that its either first or its finished…not at all…I just want her to be a normal kid, an average kid, a kid who enjoys her life more than worrying about grades…I dont expect her to top the class, or win the running race or sing the best in the class…I dont want it…
As long as she becomes a good human with decent manners and strong sense of values, I am absolutely okay with it..
and for a change, both RD and I agree to…
I have realised now in life, that coming first or securing 100/100 in maths didnt make me earn more money or have an easier life than my friend who was an average student and got only 75/100 in maths…She infact, earns more than I do, lives a more relaxed life and absolutely enjoys her life!
I think the children of today or even tomorrow (if we are considering R) have more choices…they can be chefs (Which I want R to be) or hair dressers (Which RD wants R to be 🙂 ) and yet stay afloat..who says success in life is all about having a house, a spouse and children….a life can also be about living it alone, enjoying the solitude, going away on nature trails and roaming around the world eh?
I read this article in Hindu in relation to the Olympics…Go on and read it…
There are so many 100s of unspoken heros in the Olympics which we seem to forget, which we seem to miss out on…for some reason the article gave me a lump in the throat…to forgotten heros who compete but are not Micheal Phelps or Usain Bolts (I have deep respect for them as well) but these are unsung heros from various countries who try and work to the best of their abilities, who dont make it to the top 3, but are definitely the top 10….They believe in themselves, they persereve, they work hard, they want the medal, but they dont get it…yet for me, each of them is a winner, because they tried their best..
This is what I want my daughter to be..give it your best, but dont expect yourself to win or come first…
Winning isnt everything in life, sometimes, just participating in life is the most important thing!
On the Julia/Julie project, Recipe #10
Now this contains rice, so I dont know how many people will agree to this being a ‘healthy’ option, but I think its healthy because we used brown rice to make it…yaa yaa..RD and I both cheat that ways 🙂
Anyways, this is a dish I have eaten only after I came to Bombay..its soothing, its refreshing and its exactly what your Amma ordered you to eat when your throat ache is bad and its raining badly outside
First, boil the dal…we usually use a mix of moong dal and tuvar dal..RD gets a bit enthused and adds channa dal as well….(thankfully he has not gone to the stage of adding urad dal *rolls eyes*)
Chop some onions (2?), tomatoes (2?), green chilly, ginger (you can add garlic, though I dont add in this one)
Now in a kadai, take some ghee ( I use like one spoon), add some jeera, turmeric, hing,kadi patta, then the onions, tomatoes, green chillies, ginger, let it cook a bit and then add the dal, some dhaniya jeera powder (a pinch) and salt…let the dal cook, ensure the dal is a bit watery and not too thick..
Of course, before that, when you are boiling the dal, you please cook the rice along 🙂
After the dal seems a bit cooked, add some coriander, and a dash of lime (I love this phrase eh?)
and then add the rice and mix well and cook for 2 minutes and put it hot hot on the plate and eat away..
of course, you can eat it with some bhaji like aloo, but in our house, RD eats it with papad and pickle, I eat it just like that and R eats it with a ton of ghee splattered on it 🙂
10 recipes, not bad eh?