I find it really weird to hear that ‘Change is the only constant’
Has anyone told you that?
Because loads of people, have sure told me that…
I dont like change too much honestly…I mean, I would hate a change in my schedule in the morning which usually follows a set pattern, get up, search for specs, brush teeth, switch on kitchen light, open fridge, take out atta…well you do get the drift..
God forbid if R gets up in the middle or RD has this sudden brain wave of ‘helping’ his wife…We end up fighting 🙂 yaa…R and RD and I – all three of us 🙂
But over the years, as maturity pretends to set in at 30, and as I add more and more experience to my life (and grey to my hair!) I think its true ‘Change is actually the only constant!’
The other evening, RD had gone to pick up R and I had like 2 minutes and 38 seconds before the maid came in and I sat down to do nothing! I mean, I hardly get this nothing time to myself…I am always doing something…yep that makes me sound either totally inefficient or totally obsessive about using my hands..but anyways I digress.
I sat to do nothing and I thought ‘Wow! what a change’ and I love it.
I think I liked the fact of doing nothing. No reading (well, I didnt have a new book thats why 🙂 ), no seeing TV, no work, no house work. Just sitting and doing nothing.
My Chitappa used to tell my brother that when he would live till 100 only because he was so lazy that he wouldnt move his body anywhere. He has the ability to sit and do nothing for hours together.
For me, its a big big thing. Anyways I digress again.
As I sat thinking, I was wondering about change.
I wondered if I had the superpower to change something what would it be?
I thought of multiple things, you know like world peace, no water problems, no cuts in electricity, no terrorist attacks, no bribes, perfect roads, etc etc
And then I realised, why are things like the way they are. The bottomline is ‘we make things the way they are’ If we could change ourselves, would the world change as well.
What we need to do personally is BE THE CHANGE (sounds like some line from an ad na?)
I came up with a set of stuff that I would change to make the world a better place. While I type this, I know I may not be able to follow all, but well, at least I am starting to ‘think’ that ways.
1. No bribes to anyone for any work. I think that will solve a lot of issues. Imagine if no one bribed, it would be so cool na. things would get done by people, for people and without any fights or favors!
2. No wasting water and electricity. I think I am doing this consciously for a while now. Switch off the lights, close the tap..things that can be done if made a practice
3. Use public transport. Well, its applicable of course only for cities WHERE public transport is available..but still, its kind of a conscious effort. If I can walk, I should walk it, if I can take the bus, I should take the bus. the effort to change the tendency the idea of hopping into a gasoline guzzling carbon emitting car every time!
4. Education. If there is anything we need to change in India at grassroots level, I think its the education system. Personally, one of the things I am very clear, is that I will never pressurize my child to study or learn by rote. No, dont get me wrong, I passed out of college thanks to my ‘by-hearting’ skills but thats something I would never hope my child has to do. We need to introduce more application based studies into our system. Give them the power to think, the power to question, the power to be confident of their knowledge.
Give more freedom to our kids to choose instead of just the engineer or doctor profession. If R asks me for an opinion my first answer would be do what you want, if she still asks I will tell her that her Appa wants her to be a hair dresser and her Amma wants her to be a chef 🙂 (what? I want free tasty food okie?!)
5. Women in India – I think we need to change. We need to speak up more, be more frank, be more brave, tell what we think is in our minds, fight out the society’s closed views on the patriarchal thought process, thrive to be more independent, dont bring up our daughters to be only a daughter in law, but bring her up to be an independent thinker, bring up our sons in such a way that they know what it is to respect a woman, cherish her and love her
6. Men in India – I guess this was just a generalisation but men definitely need to learn to respect women. If that comes in all problems automatically get solved. No harassment, no rapes, nothing. World will definitely become a better place to live.
7. Conserve nature – even if its potting a few plants in the balcony or putting up a bird feeder in the terrace. Do it. Every bit matters.
8. Respect the other person, irrespective of sex, religion, language, colour, kind of work they do, anything. Just respect that’s the bottom line.
I know most of this is possible by each of us if we really want to change the world. May be I cant speak on point 6, but for the rest of it, I am sure I am going to try my best to follow what I just wrote. Its not difficult, its just a matter of ‘wanting’ to do it.
This goes as an entry to http://facebook.com/sftimetochange (time to change)