Celebrating Myself

Dear Blog,

you know how I take part in EVERY womensweb competition..ever since it has been incepted……its like a ritual to me…and of course, the part that I have NEVER won anything doesnt deter me from doing it…I take part every single time 🙂

So when they came up with a Celebrating Myself contest, how could I not?

A few days ago, I was very depressed…for some reason…may be I was PMSing or may be I was upset at work, or may be I was just you know feeling meloncholy….Do you know of days when you feel everything is wrong…

your face, the pimples, the fat cells that refuse to leave your body, the way your child is crying at the drop of a hat, the stupid guilt of being a working mom, the way you keep burning your food, the way you keep thinking that your husband is only interested in the blackberry, the jeans that refuse to climb your thighs or the formal pants that hurt your paunch when you sit or the excel sheet that refuses to save itself on the server or the word document which comes back to  you with zillions of corrections during review.

Yes, all this and much more was depressing me to no end.

Then I reached home all depressed and bugged and irritated. I was ready to scream my head off at the brat and her father.

I realise the  brat is not yet home. I quickly make some Chole and decide to make bature for the brat who has been asking me for a long time that she wanted to eat chole bature.

Why? Why am I doing this? I hate frying anything. In the 6 years of marriage, I have made puris only once, that too when the MIL Was there. But here I was, all depressed and yet ready to go ahead and fry puris.

And then the brat comes. I realise she has come because I hear her voice on the staircase arguing with her Appa that she knows her Amma is back home.

She loudly knocks the door and by the time I open up she has made a racket pounding the door with all her strength.

I open up and she rushes into my arms, laughing so loudly that I fear her face will break into two.

She laughs and laughs and laughs for about 2 minutes hugging me hard.

I realise, there is so much I have in life. I  have so much to celebrate about myself. I have so much that I have achieved in life. I realise that I am content totally content at this point in life. Which personally is a big achievement. I am content with the way my life is now. No matter how much I crib about my weight gain or my lack of sleep, if someone asked me what more do you want in life, I would have nothing to answer. Nothing MORE.

I have realised that the pimples dont matter when the brat tells me that I look beautiful in a white kurta (Amma, aaj aap kitne sundar look kar rahe ho)

I have realised that the fat cells that refuse leave my body dont matter because there is always a nice kurta the husband brought which make me feel great within

I have realised that the way your child is crying at the drop of a hat doesnt matter because she is equally quick to burst into laughter through the tears when I have it in me to distract her attention

I have realised that its stupid having  the stupid guilt of being a working mom because a mom is a mom is a mom and I am definitely A MOM 🙂

I have realised that burning the food doesnt matter when you have a family who eats whatever you make and there are times when your food is equally superlative 🙂

I have realised that thinking that your husband is only interested in the blackberry is not really true when he sets out to make rajma rice for you when you are down and upset

I have realised that the jeans that refuse to climb your thighs are not a big deal because you can always get a new pair or get them stitched

I have realised that the formal pants that hurt your paunch when you sit can be replaced with a salwar

I have realised that the excel sheet that refuses to save itself on the server can have an alternate location for saving

I have realised that the word document which comes back to  you with zillions of corrections during review is just a way for you to learn better writing skills.

I have realised that I have achieved enough in life to be proud of myself. I have realised that I have it in me to multi-task. I can work, I can take care of a child, I can be a wife, I can be a daughter and yet I am me. I am an individual. But more Importantly my greatest achievement is that I have realised that I dont HAVE to be a mother or a wife or a daughter. I am what I want myself to be. and That I think is the best way of celebrating one self 🙂

Always writing to you



ETA to add the code – thanks RS –

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71 Responses to Celebrating Myself

  1. Orczy says:

    Congrats RM..Keep Going :

  2. Swaram says:

    It’s such a blessing to be happy being ourselves 🙂 Stay the same RM and loads of hugs!:)

  3. My Era says:

    Loved the line…I am what I want I want myself to be 🙂
    Good luck for the contest 😀

  4. Shweta says:

    Two Weekend Blogs .. Such a surprise from You RM.. 🙂
    I love u for what You are.. 🙂 Love reading u.. Love trying to relate to it.. sharing your day in day out thoughts.. 😀
    Kudos.. Keep Goin !!

  5. NBose says:

    RM…U know how do you feel when the other person speaks the same thing which is there in your mind!!!…I am feeling the same…..

    So true na….. No matter how much I crib about my weight gain or my lack of sleep, if someone asked me what more do you want in life, I would have nothing to answer. Nothing MORE. 😀

  6. anisnest says:

    all the very best to win the contest RM.. break the rule of not winning I say 🙂 🙂
    We have all the reasons to celebrate our self.. We live a blessed and gifted life compared to so many others in this world yet this doesn’t hit the stupid mind when we are depressed 😦 I am sailing on the same boat as you RM.. a big hug..

  7. Gayu says:

    WOW…!!! This was one of your best post RM…i personally feel so. I loved the line”A mom is a mom is a mom…and I am a MOM…” !!!!

    I read the post maybe twice thrice…I don’t remember now…each time i read it the words conveyed something more to me…!!!
    N haan i totally agree…a compliments from children make your day…!! I would love to see u in thart White Kurta…bolo kab mil rahe ho….????

    Want to give you a tight HUG:) and lots of kisses to R:)
    We are truly blessed RM, cos we are healthy, educated and have a job. We can earn and fulfill our needs. We can write and express ourselves…we can hear…we can talk…we are blessed!!!

    Take care dear

  8. Mathangi Vijay says:

    That is indeed a great post RM! Just loved the way you wrote it. Yes Some days are depressing and so was mine today. But I am feeling much much better after reading this post of yours. Makes me realize that yes I have achieved something for myself in my life.
    Thanks RM for making my day!

  9. Amritorupa Kanjilal says:

    Hi R’s mom!
    Loved theses stories of you and your ‘brat’, and the struggles all of us go through as modern day women. Would love to read more! following you now!

    Please visit my blog at http://riversihaveknown.wordpress.com/
    It’s a new blog, about books. Please follow!

  10. “I am what I want myself to be” – Sums it all up – beautifully written.

    And I love that laughing of R because she was looking forward to you opening the door and hugging you – total stolen moment there 😀 {HUGS}

  11. That was such a positive post, RM. Makes up for a wonderful reading on a Monday morning! Good luck with the contest!

  12. Ramya says:

    I have realised that its stupid having the stupid guilt of being a working mom because a mom is a mom is a mom and I am definitely A MOM 🙂 …. Some words which I really really needed right now… hope you can guess the reason… Thanks RM… u made my day with this line and your kid hugging you so nicely brings smile on your face anytime irrespective of the situations 🙂

  13. Seema says:

    Lovvved this post RM, specially the second paragraph in Bold letters.

    I want Chole Bature 😀

  14. Nithvin says:

    Double like the post 🙂

  15. garima says:

    RM please this time let me fall at your feet.
    This post is really the best.You have so beautifully converted all the negative thoughts into positive thoughts and they are so inspiring.Great work 🙂

  16. DI says:

    This is the first thing I read when I logged in at work today. For some similar reasons and some different ones, I am in a state of super-turmoil mentally right now. But this post actually made me feel so much better. Thanks RM, for making my Monday morning so much nicer 🙂

  17. LOVED this, RM! 🙂

    So true – ‘I am what I want myself to be.’ Completely agree.

    Good luck with the contest.

    I could very much relate to this post – with the husband who seems to be interested only in his mobile, with work that never seems to end, never being able to find time for myself, the oodles of fat, the not-so-clear skin and the bad hair. That’s how I begin to think when I am having a bad day. But then, I realise in some time that all is well. 🙂

  18. Sreetama says:

    Hugs RM! What a beautiful way to start the week! Yes, there is always much more to life than what we see & get depressed about… You are an inspiration to many! Have a rocking week ahead!

  19. Smita says:

    I loved this post because of the spirit that it has! The post has a soul 🙂
    And with a spirit like this, every day is a celebration!

  20. awesome post! hugs to you RM..

  21. vandana says:

    This is such a nice write -up and its such a heart-warming post ..loved it

  22. //I am what I want myself to be// That’s celebration !!! Hugs.

  23. ashreyamom says:

    nice post.. it just reminds all of us that we too need to celebrate. :).
    and hey i am finally back. back after all good and bad days. now i am back working after a year break .back with little guilt of leaving home baby with MIL, but happy to out taking care of many more things. :).

  24. summerscript says:

    Awesome post RM!
    I really really loved it! Thanks for this beautiful post 🙂

  25. Ashwathy says:

    Perfect 🙂

    A lot of people in life do not realize what is actually valuable in life. And those are the priceless things. You realize I am not talking about money here. 🙂

    But you, my dear, have your head in the right place…. that’s why you are my sis 😉

  26. What a sweet post RM, enjoyed it thoroughly 🙂

  27. Priyanka says:

    Awesome post, loved reading it! Our kid’s unconditional love blinds everything else out 🙂

  28. Chaitali says:

    I knw this is come frm deep down one’s heart.. it so honest.. n innocent..
    I loved da blog.. i can read it n number of times n yet feel good abt reading it..
    Enjoy ur break..

  29. Tanishka says:

    I just loved loved loved this post… And yeah always be the same RM… I just love the way you are and sometimes I really wish if I can become like you and manage so many things together… You are an inspiration… You are a source of motivation… You are full of life… You are beautifully YOU… 🙂

    • R's Mom says:

      baap rey! dont give me so much praise..I will go up the chane ka jhad 🙂 arey aisa kuch nahi..guess most of us are like that only..finding happiness in small things in life eh?

  30. shail says:

    Yay. proud to be yourself and of your achievements. 🙂 Way to go.
    Good luck with the competition! 🙂

  31. Gauri says:

    Hey there…this post is wonderfully written, should be a reminder to every woman that she doesn’t have to be anything more than just herself..

  32. Padma says:

    Congratulations! So well written.Having blown my trumpet I feel petty in comparison

  33. Writerzblock says:

    That was a simply brilliant post!!!! You spoke for me too (and I’m sure for many many other women out there). Truly, nothing much matters when you have the most precious things in life 🙂 Stay blessed R’s mom. And congrats on winning 🙂

  34. Deeps says:

    What a wonderful post, RM! Stay the way you are for you are blessed in every which way! I am so glad to have read this post!

  35. aame says:

    Awesome !!! Once again !!!! Am a fan of u now…i guess one of the many 🙂 Congrats !!!!

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