IHM wrote a very interesting post along with an email from a 35 year old regarding condoms..
Please do read the comments in the post, each is better than the other…
I think its plain silly that in India you are still embarrassed to buy condoms…I dont know who is more embarrassed, the pharmacist or the buyer….I remember seeing some old ads in DD about nirodh, or some thing (I cant recollect what) where the man goes into the pharmacy and goes ahem ahem and then he comes back without buying..then he gets a brand name and goes in again and just asks for the brand name and everyone is smiling at his choice or something like that…(There was such an ad na?)
I think in India, we create a big deal about everything, periods, sex, marriage, and everything…
I mean, lets look at things practically
Condom – necessary if you want to have protected sex, its the easiest thing to use when you dont want to use other birth control techniques and one of the few without side effects…and then in a country with the second largest population in the world, I think condoms should be the hottest selling commodity after milk and rice and wheat!!
Sex – Everyone has it okie? I mean why create a big fuss about it…..I am not asking you to imagine people having sex, I am just stating its a fact of life…the earlier you accept it, the better its going to be…and more you hide it from your kids, the more they will be tempted to know about it…and sometimes for unwanted sources
Periods – All women have it…and no, I dont like it too much, despite of having them for more than 16 years now…and let me clear this myth
When I was a kid and had tummy aches, I was told, get married the pain will go away…it didnt
Then I was told, have a kid and the pain will go away – it still hasnt!
so for all you young girls who read this blog, please do something better about the pain than getting married and having kids okie…its NOT a solution for tummy aches or back aches during periods (marriage has its other advantages though like a free financial management or free hugs and kisses given whenever you are down, etc etc..and oh oh Kids have their own advantages, but we are not getting into all that 🙂 )
So coming back to periods, we all are lucky to use sanitary napkins…seriously…there are millions across the globe who still are under unhygienic conditions…whats wrong in going and buying one…
Its funny that we create such a big fuss about buying sanitary napkins…my dad and brother have bought it for me, when I needed it…RD buys it for me now..he is not ashamed, he just buys it like he buys other medicines..infact once in the shop we had an argument when he told me that ‘this is the right brand for you’ and I am like ‘no its not’ and he is like ‘arey I buy every month na, why are you arguing’ and the ladies around stared as if he was a specimen from mars!
My dad was the one who told me about sex, how babies are born and what happens when I will start menstruating…why is that wrong…when I told my school friend that my appa told me this, she tells me ‘how is that possible, how can you be so free with your father’
What nonsense is that? when my cousin K used to have severe cramps, my bro used to get her meds, make her lie down and give her hot water to keep in the tummy…whats wrong with that??
I mean what is the whole point?
Earlier on, I think this was the period where the women of the house got rest from the strenuous work which they did and so I can understand the need for rest…and again my mom’s cousin used to wait to become ‘dooram’ so that she had full three days to read as much as she wanted 🙂
my problem is not sitting separately, my problem is with creating a big hue and cry about it..dont enter the kitchen, sleep separately, have a bath in the toilet, wash your own clothes and patrams, dont touch anyone else in the house, etc etc etc…
I think its plain stupid..if you are asking someone to take rest because their body is giving out a lot of blood (which is not actually blood), I can totally understand you know…you are worried…but if you are stopping someone from behaving normally, and making them feel yucky, Gah to you!
I would never agree to it…I have been brought up in a household where my dad used to tell me that the woman is the purest when she is having her periods because the body is cleaning itself ….my mom never observed anything honestly except perhaps not lighting the lamp in the swami room..
Sometimes I feel the real problem is the lack of education….people who read this blog and are in their 20s or 30s, I would really want to know whether there was any sex education when you were in school…because my school didnt have it…the female reproductive system was taught separately to girls..all the more reason why the guys wanted to know what was happening..when you have sex education as a subject and treat it without secrets or sniggers, I think kids would be more receptive and perhaps treat their bodies and that of others with a lot more respect!
As usual my post is jumbled up with thoughts that threaten to flow out…..in short this is what I have to say 🙂
1. Sex Education – very important part of one’s education..and it needs to be age appropriate..dont treat a 15 year old like a 5 year old and teach stupid stuff like kids come out from mother’s stomach..they know about wombs..and if they dont, go ahead and teach them that!
2. Periods – all females have it and there is nothing wrong in buying sanitary napkins..and no as far as I am concerned, there is nothing like a ‘happy’ period for me!
3. Condoms -safe, necessary and important in one’s life. Go ahead and buy that pack without any fuss okie?
Disclaimer : These are all my personal views, if I hurt someone’s sentiments, I am sorry.