Warning: Crazy post ahead please read at your risk..or you know what…its a rant..just skip this one!
And so, the other day while walking towards the bus…I meet up with NB who has been married for an year…
NB: Arey where have you been
RM: Here only, I take a different bus
NB: Oh okie
RM: How are things with you?
NB: Okie RM..as usual MIL problems..and now everyone is asking me to have a baby since I finished one year of marriage
RM: Okie..so you want to have a baby is it?
NB: Well..I dont know..I am pretty old you know..as old as you infact a few months older
RM: Oh okie..but that isnt a problem na..I mean look at so many people, they gave birth even at mid 30s…if you arent sure then wait for a while
NB: Too much pressure from the in laws side..and so are you planning your second one
RM: hahahha! you sound like one of those aunties in my building yaar…pata nahi
NB: you should *She looks all serious*
RM: okie..if you say so..lemme tell RD that NB wants us to have another baby and I start laughing
NB: no no..dont joke..acha tell me…in RD’s family is he the only son
RM: No he has a sister na..I told you
NB: no no…only son…
RM: Arey I told you na he has a sister..
NB: No..boy boy..he doesnt have any brothers na
RM: oh that ways…yaa he is the only boy and he has only one sister
NB: Thats what…and you have a daughter
RM: Errr..of course you do know that dont you
NB: Thats what RM, have another child..you have to have another child..a boy this time
NB: Arey someone has to take RD’s family name forward na
RM: Are you crazy…I already have R na..and why should I have more children..just to take RD’s family name forward..tu pagal hai (you are mad)
NB: Arey, wont anyone tell you to have another child to take his family name forward?
RM: you know what NB, if I have another child, I hope its a girl…so that people like you dont come up with strange explanations on WHY I should plan a second child…I cant believe you yaar..you are so educated and YOU are telling me this! I cant believe it
NB: Arey thats how the world thinks RM…if I have a girl child in my first pregnancy, I HAVE to have a second child as a boy
RM: How the hell are you going to ensure its a boy..what if its a girl
NB: Well..thankfully in my case, my husband’s elder brother already has a son..so its not that bad
RM: I dont believe this..I swear I just dont believe this!! Are you kidding me!!!you know what? now toh I hope I have a daughter only the next time I ever have a child
NB: Gosh…you are so different RM
RM: Different..why different?
NB: I would never dare to say this aloud
RM: What aloud! I am just telling you and I will also tell anyone who dares to tell me to have a boy the next time…I mean as long as the baby is healthy, how does it matter boy or girl?
This folks comes for a lady who is well educated, works for a big firm and has lived all her life in Mumbai, whose mother has supported her two daughters and one son after her father expired when my friend was 12 years…I mean…you have seen your mother slog, you have seen yourself working your ass off…and YET you want me to ENSURE I have a boy…just to carry the family name forward *shakes head*
I sometimes just dont know what to say!!!