Suddenly in the 21.5 minutes train journey today, I was thinking (yes apart from eavesdropping conversations, reading books holding them above my head and trying to get a free massage from co passengers because of the crowd, I ALSO THINK!)..what do I want for my child…
Do I sound weird?
To be honest to this blog, I sometimes feel pretty unreal..I mean, I get this sudden thought that oh my God! I have a child..a child who is dependent on me for everything..what if I fail her or dont meet her expectations…has any mom ever felt overwhelmed by the fact that they are moms? Can you imagine that you have created a human being who is similar to you in manner and taste and who you have to nurture and bring up and make her a good citizen of the world…I do sometimes get unnerved with this thought..well but I am me 😉
anyways I digress
Like I was saying, what do I want for my child? Apart from the good life and good education for her to enjoy…I think this is what I want her to have
–Respect for other people irrespective whether they are from the same socio-economic background, same age, same gender, ..because if you cant do that, you can never be successful..you can never enjoy the love given to you and you can never move ahead in life
–A love for books irrespective whether they are fact or fiction, philosophy or romance, history or contemporary…she should grab whatever comes by and read read read..because I feel when you dont read, you miss out a great deal in life…you miss out the imagination, the dream world, learning about other cultures, and so much more
–A hobby which gives her immense joy..for me its dancing..for her it could be anything – a sport, music, instruments, dancing..whatever..because when you have a hobby, you have a sense of balance in life between work and enjoyment, you have a purpose to learn more in life and you can definitely be by yourself and not fear loneliness
–Being kind, caring and polite…I think its very important..though it may sound the same as respecting others, sometimes even if we respect others we may not be polite to them…in my professional life I have seen it often that you respect your colleagues for who they are but are often impolite to them..there is a very thin line between being formal and being caring and polite..and often RD tells me that I am being formal when what I feel is that I am being caring and polite…its a very thin line I feel, and I would rather sound formal than sound impolite
–Enjoying food..I am a self confessed foodie..and trust me at 2.5 years R is turning out to be a glutton..but what I want for her is to enjoy different cuisines, understand the hard work that goes behind making them, appreciate the smell and take in the taste…I want her to experiment new stuff and I want her to enjoy them fully
–A set of good friends – girls and boys…yaa doesnt it sound absurd..but I really want her to have friends, friends for whom she will do anything, who can call her up at 2 in the night, whom she can call at 2 in the night, friends who are the best of buddies and the best of critics..friends who will stand by her for anything and everything and friends who can trust her to do the same…
–A sense of purpose in life…I have a pretty non-purposeful life..honestly..I do the same thing everyday in and out, I am not a part of any social organization, heck! I dont even dance anymore..but for my child, I wish to have a purpose..a purpose she should pursue and enjoy doing…a purpose which will be for the good for world in general
Ok, now then Andheri came, I had to stop thinking and start moving…..next time I think in the train, the thoughts will be here…
PS: R, yes your mom wants all this for you, but baby, you are an individual and you do what you want. okie?