When I was a kid, I used to come to Mumbai once an year or once in two years, since my dad’s extended family is here and they are very close to each other…I have always been fascinated by the ladies here….We hardly used to go in the local trains, but whenever we went, the sights and sounds of the trains held a special magic to me…I used to go back to Brc and discuss with my friends about how ladies are always decked up in Mumbai, wearing flowers in their hair, constantly working on something in the train, whether its cleaning the coriander, methi leaves, or podding peas and tuver, or just skinning veggies..or knitting or sewing..it fascinated me on how they knew to utilize every minute of their day in a positive manner..
Now, I am one of them..I am a typical mumbaikar wife who tries to balance, work and house and kid..
So what is my daily routine?
Get up at about 4.45 or 5 in the morning…make rotis and subji, and salad for both hubby and me..have my bath, light the lamp and make tea for both of us…drink the tea, while hubby gets up to go to office…pack our dabbas and say bye to hubby while going to wake up R..
get through R’s routine of brushing, and milk drinking and potty and bath and dressing…change my own clothes to office wear and then leave for school/office
Leave house by about 7.40 to drop R at the daycare, rush to Borivali station to catch the earliest train and reach andheri..fight, plead, beg, shout, scream, cry to the rick guys to take me to office…
finish work and go to the BEST bus stop to catch a bus back to andheri station…fight, snarl, pinch, push, shove into a bus and reach andheri station..get into the train by fight, snarl…(you get the drift right!)
again get into a BEST bus,and reach home by 7 to 7.15 in the evening
Rush to make dinner in the meantime, R wants me to ‘uthao’ her, give her something to eat to keep her occupied..listen to the maid’s advice on how I should keep the house clean, blah blah blah…in midst this, I also read books to R or make her do some colouring
and then once the maid is gone, have dinner by 8.30 to 8.45..clean the night vessels, prepare for the next day’s dabba, and then wipe the kitchen platform..
take R to bed, read some books for her and then all of us sleep off by 9.30 to 10 pm
As of now, I dont have any homework or assignment problems for R..once she starts big school, I will need to take out sometime for that also..
Even when I travel by train now, I wonder how some ladies make it a point to dress up really well for office with saree, matching bindi and bangles and earrings and necklace and lipstick and all that..honestly all through the day, I just dont have time for myself..there is no ME time for me..weekends, R is at home and we are busy cleaning the house and no ME time again
For a typical mumbai working woman, when is the ME time….after I retire????